Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Freedom and Dating.


Now, I can say I have the freedom but it doesn't mean that I can fully enjoy my holidays now, as up next are my final year project and internship which Im soo looking forward for! hehe *hopefully I can do my best during my attachment in one of the banks, Amin, :)*

In short, I have finished my exams, and I am worried about my results, because this is my final year! 0.0 My mum keep asking me what do I feel about my results and I'm like, mama, we just wait for the results ok, hehee . In actual fact, I'm scared tooo! On a random note, I'm listening to Nasheed Ramadan by MisharyAlafasy. Go and google it :) Ohh, it is sooo soothing and bring my Ramadhan memories back. weeeee :)

Sometimes, I feel like I'm not 20, Oh, am I ? haha. ignore that, Ok, lets get back to serious matters. Alright, this morning, me and my mama were in the kitchen and we chit chat. So, mum brought up the topic about going dating. UH-HUH, dating. 0.0 well, here is what I'm gonna share. Actually, mum always brought up this topic whenever we are together. It is just that today, I feel like posting this up. 

So, as we all know, there is no such thing as dating, in Islam. 
You want to date, go ahead, provided that both of you are married. Full stop. Even if you are engaged, this does not give you the permission to hang out together as a couple anywhere. I'm not explaining in depth about this but this is the least we need to know. So, when talking with my mum about this, sometimes, it just makes me wonders why some of the teenagers or adults who know the Islamic rules, but decide to do it. They say it is a current trend, where those who don't go for dating are outdated or too religious.

This is not about being too religious or not keeping with the current trend. * By the way, which trend culture are you focussing here?*  In Islam, it is clearly stated in the Quran where dating is strictly prohibited. Therefore, we have no right to question about this because, it is as if we are questioning Allah? To add on, we went further by saying that, if dating is the reason for knowing more and getting to know more about each other, then why are there, divorce among those couples who have been known to love each other before married? Those couples who had been dating every week and knows practically everything about their girlfriend/boyfriend 's favourite food, colour, or habits, but when they are married, in the next year, we hear them filing a divorce. So, how then do you say dating can help you preserve you marriage?

That is why, Islam is beautiful. :) weee. It sets out guidelines for us in order to find the right spouse. *Hada talking about spouse?* No dating doesn't mean, we can't get to know our future spouse. read the above para, if you insists that dating is. haha =p Hence, to make sure that we get the best out of the best, it is important to look at the Deen of the person. Just look at those who never know each other and they live happily ever after, right, hehe. 

So the point here is, dating is not allowed in Islam. If you like somebody, then say it to your parents and they will arrange an engagement for you, provided you have check the background of your admirer and all that. haha. Then on the day of your wedding, you will feel soo special! hehe, because this is your first time , in a halal way, with your spouse. ^^

Ok, till here for now. I can't believe I'm elaborating on this.
*feels awkward when my parents talk about my marriage with me* hahah ^^

But, I love to share this quote, it says, '' I love you because of the deen that is in you, If you lose your deen, then I will lose my love towards you '' [Imam An Nawawi] :)

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